Space > Time (in healing and in life)
From the Sunday Self-Care Chronicles | 6/29/25
This week’s Sunday Self-Care Chronicles is a reflection on what happens when time off turns into something deeper—and how space, not just time, is often the missing ingredient in healing.
This week’s issue touches on:
✨ A real-life moment of unplugging that led to unexpected clarity.
✨ Why time alone isn’t enough to recover, process, or grow.
✨ The difference between surviving on a timeline and actually creating space for healing.
Read the full email below - and if something speaks to you please feel free to comment, share, or reach out!
Hello darling,
You may (or may not) have noticed that I didn't send a newsletter last week (no offense taken if you are not sitting around waiting for these Sunday emails lol).
I didn't mean to ghost you but truthfully, I'm not going to apologize or feel guilty either.
Normally I try to write and schedule these emails in advance (hello structure as self-care) so that I am not pressured or rushed but I got behind and figured I would take care of it on the weekend, despite being out of town.
I was up at my family cottage with my mom and brother, opening up for the summer, which requires a good bit of clean up after long Canadian winters.
Regardless of the chores that await us every spring, it's one of those places where life slows down just enough to let your nervous system exhale.
On Saturday the weather rolled in, and the power went out, and I found myself in that rarest of places: time and space with nothing to do.
Not just free time. But spaciousness.
The kind where no one needs you.
Where nothing is urgent.
Where your only job is to be a body on the earth.
The weather outside meant chores were on hold and the lack of power inside left us with nothing to do except hang out or get lost in a book (thanks to my well charged Kindle with the glow light).
When the world powered back up on Sunday, I realized I still had plenty of time to “get it done,” but there was a resistance that I couldn't quite pinpoint - it wasn't about having the TIME to sit down and write (I had it), it was that I needed the SPACE not to.
And once that hit me, I couldn’t go back to pretending I was going to “show up” the rest of the week. I cleared my calendar of a handful of online events. I unplugged. Fully. And it got me thinking...
So much of healing — especially in survivorship — is measured by time.
How long it’s been since treatment.
How long until the next scan.
How long you’ve been waiting to feel more like yourself again.
But I’m coming to believe that time alone isn’t enough.
What we really need is space.
Space to not be productive.
Space to rest without guilt and recover without expectations.
Space to feel the feelings that didn’t have room when you were in survival mode.
Space to soften the parts of you that have been clenched for way too long.
Because time alone doesn’t heal all wounds.
I’ve been working on a bigger framework around all of this — a set of six essential elements I believe every person healing from breast cancer needs to address.
One of them is what I’m calling Time & Space. And what I’m learning (over and over again) is this:
Time without space is just survival on a calendar.
You can give yourself time “off” and still feel tension humming in your body.
You can get further from treatment and still feel stuck.
You can wait and wait… and never actually feel better.
But when we create intentional space—whether it’s on a massage table, in a daily ritual, or through self-reflection—we open a doorway. One that lets healing actually happen, in real time, inside our real lives.
That’s the kind of space I try to offer—
✨ Hands-on sessions to help your body receive and let go.
✨ Rituals like dry brushing that turn care into a sacred pause.
✨ Tools like my e-book that gently reconnect you with your body, your risk, your options—and your healing.
This isn’t about stepping away from life forever. It’s about finding moments to step toward yourself.
If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, stuck in go-mode, or unsure why time alone isn’t helping—you’re not broken. You’re just missing space.
And that’s something we can begin to reclaim. Together. Gently. On purpose.
💭 Something to consider:
Is there a part of your healing—physical, mental, or emotional—that’s been put on pause while you wait for the “right time”? What might happen if you gave it space instead?
💌 I’d love to hear from you:
Does the idea of “space vs time” resonate with you? Hit reply—I’m always honored to hear how these ideas land.
This week, may you find rest that isn’t earned, and space that doesn’t need justifying. I’m here when you need me and I'm always in this with you.
ps. I’m building out more of this philosophy behind the scenes—and I can’t wait to share it. But for now? Let this be your permission slip to slow down and make space for your healing.
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